Lasisi Lewis Blog

Hint: it has nothing to do with what they say. Someone loves (or, cares for, respects, and values) you if… They dare to speak up (in a loving way) and tell you when you are wrong, potentially hurting yourself, or others. They show a genuine interest in the things for which you are most interested, excited, and passionate about. They prioritize spending time with you regularly. They listen, with focused presence and interest, when you speak. They are willing to let go, if you both have tried as hard as you can to make things work, and things are no longer working. Letting go can also be an act of love, because it releases both parties so they can move on, heal, and find someone who is a healthier, better match at that point. Emotionally mature, healthy adults let go when a relationship, friendship, or other connection is no longer working. They make an effort to get to know and get along with the people you love most. Even if they don’t fully jive with or love these people themselves, t...

These are heartbreaking times for the United States of America. The killing of George Floyd has given rise to a spasm of grief and anguish that has brought thousands to the streets to protest. George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor — they are just the latest names in a drumbeat of black Americans whose lives were taken in brutal fashion. “We are witnessing America as a failed social experiment,” Cornel West said on Friday night. “The history of black people for over 200-some-years has been looking at America’s failure. Its capitalist economy could not deliver in such a way that people could live lives of decency. The nation-state, its criminal justice system, its legal system could not generate protection of rights and liberties. And now our culture of course is so market-driven, everybody for sale, everything for sale, it can’t deliver the kind of real nourishment for soul, for meaning, for purpose. And so when you get this perfect storm of all of these multiple failures at these...